Anger is Addictive

Dec 3, 2012 | Posted in: Blog

I don’t know if you have noticed the nature of anger. If we suppress it, of course, then it is not released and becomes a stuck energy within our system. It becomes that boiling pot just waiting to explode. As the pressure builds, it has to be directed somewhere inside and the result is depression. Because we experience anger we are effectively acknowledging that our rules have been broken but, we are in the energy of resistance and fear. There is no doubt that our rules must be broken in order for us to see who ‘we’ really are, and when we experience them breaking in the energy of love, learning and acceptance there is no anger to be found. Only in the energy of resistance and fear do we experience anger.

Expressed anger has an addictive quality to it. In the releasing of anger the rush of chemicals through our system feels akin to an adrenalin rush that we might get leaping off a mountain on a rope. Following this rush there is a deep sense of satisfaction (until guilt kicks in), a sense of justice being done. This seductive cycle keeps us attached to our anger and gives us the impression that anger is both natural and necessary, yet anger is still based in our fears. Yes, of course it has a function for our survival. It provides the energy for us to act. But fundamentally, anger is about our rules being broken – our boundaries feeling threatened – and there has to be a better way to react to that event than projecting anger (whether in its expressed or repressed form). Anger causes us to want to fight and either we take that fight to others or we take it out on ourselves. Neither is helpful to the fulfilment of our higher purpose, health and happiness, let alone our impact on the world and the legacy we leave.