Fairness: Illusion of Expectation

Dec 17, 2012 | Posted in: Blog

Who said that one person should have the same as, or equivalent to another? Whether that is in terms of what they receive, the skills and abilities they have, the experiences in their lives or any other measure we might think of. Does it matter?

When we are young we are taught about fairness, especially if we have siblings, we are taught to share and to balance things out amongst those around us in our families. Yet, as we become more and more exposed to the outside world we realise that others don’t operate by the same fairness rules as us and learn to feel a sense of unfairness very quickly. Very often we only look at one side of fairness – which is unfairness and especially when it is applied to us! We may be right in our judgment of unfairness, but it may also just be the way things are.

How do we respond to our sense (perception) of unfairness? Sometimes we may join a good cause in order to exercise fairness, sometimes we will fight for fairness and sometimes we will simply resort to being the victim of circumstances as we adopt the ‘life isn’t fair’ mentality. There are of course other options, such as our acceptance that fairness doesn’t exist in an absolute sense, which would result in us busting the illusion that fairness should exist. In our acceptance we can live life through the mentality of abundance, and who knows, maybe we will be more open to receiving as a result – thus balancing our perceived unfairness.

Fairness is not justice, but justice may result in balancing the situation so making it ‘fair’ in our minds. There is no fairness when a child is killed – even the death of the killer is not fairness, it is justice being exercised. Seeking justice is a part of the social system we live in – rules are broken and justice is applied to the offender. That is different.

Fairness is of our own perception, and whilst there will be some agreement as to what is fair among us (because we live by similar rules), fairness is still an illusion of our expectation that ‘what we put in we must equal get back out’. After all, that’s only fair, right?