With so much of our time spent ‘prooving’ our differences whilst at the same time feeling a strong need to fit in, is there any wonder that we live most of our life in some form of inner conflict and turmoil. There we are on the one hand wanting to stand out from the rest – albeit perhaps not too far, just in case we get slammed – and on the other hand we have this desperate need to feel connected and loved. Yes, we all have different strengths, weaknesses (if you want to label them that way), we have different desires, habits and styles – but how different are we really, underneath it all.
From my studies in psychology and my observations of children growing up, it is clear that all children go through the same stages of development. Maybe the timescales are different and the degree of competence achieved is different, but the underlying process they all go through are the same. From recent experience and further studies I have discovered that we all die the same way too – again we go through the same processes in order to exit life. Time is a key factor in the speed through which we transition the stages of death, of course.
If we go through the same processes during our early years and as we die, then is it not possible that all aspects of our development happen through the same processes? If that is the case then of course we have to ask the question, why don’t we all develop the same way? The answer is down to our genetic makeup, our conditioning and how we respond to the experiences of life. The processes through which we develop may be the same but how we transition those processes is determined by us, individually. Maybe we are more similar than we think – especially when we consider that fear (whilst great for our survival) is the greatest developmental inhibitor – for all of us!
To thwart or support our evolution – that is the question?